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‘ Know , how the art of being alone can transform your life.'(how to be comfortable being alone)


The idea of being alone frightens every person. No one wants to be left alone. This is true that being alone for a long time is not desirable. 


But spending little moments in solitude is extremely pleasant for ourselves. 
We have been structured the way to follow the crowd or always be in the group. Even our society treats loners strangely. Many have wrong perceptions about loners like, 
“ Is something wrong with him? , why he is alone most of the time ?. Maybe no one wants to be his friend”.



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Very few know about the power of solitude. Through my article, I will drive you into this quality of being alone and how it is beneficial for us.

 


MANY HISTORY MAKERS SPENT TIME ALONE: 


Nicole Tesla spent most of his time in solitude when he was not working. He optimized his creativity resulting in razor-sharp focus by secluding himself.


Pablo Picasso, the famous artist said;
“Without great solitude no serious work is possible.”
Einstein used to say,
“a table, a chair, a bowl of fruit, a violin what else does a man need to be happy??”


During ancient times Buddhist monks spent months being alone to deepen their meditation practice. They also knew very well that happiness comes from within and does not require others. 


The science later confirmed what monks used to say about isolation. Spending time alone each day will increase your focus, as a result, making you more productive.



WHY IS SOLITUDE IMPORTANT:

 

There must be some worthy results of time spent in solitude that most of the researchers, writers, actors practiced it. 


I m going to acknowledge the benefits of solitude. By learning those benefits you will come to know why it is so important. 
Here I go :


1. Becoming independent:

Once you learn to enjoy your own company, the fear of being alone doesn’t bother you anymore. Relying on others to make you feel better during those hard times will not always work.


 They might not be available at the very moment you need them. Then you’ll have to suffer it alone. Getting addicted to others for support is harmful because one time you’ll not get it and you will break. 


2. Increase your productivity: 

When you are alone you can focus on your work without any distraction. You can see your strengths and weaknesses and can work on them without anyone else judging you. 


You will get to know your capabilities, your targets, your goals. What you want from your life and how to achieve it.
 

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3. Engagements with wrong people

I will make you understand this with my example; 
I changed my school in eleventh grade. Like me, there were many new students. Most of them were trying to settle at this school and make some friends.


 I saw many who got engaged with the wrong students in a hurry to befriend. But as I was okay to be alone I talked to everyone but didn’t make any of them my friend (I have been practicing solitude since school, I love it ). Later a girl also took admission to my class. 


We talked and I only made her my friend. She is still my good friend (now I m in my college). 
Rather than engaging with wrong people, whom you don’t know well prefer to be alone. At least it won’t harm you. 


4. Knowing yourself better: 
When you are all by yourself, you can connect to your soul. Always be surrounded by people affects our personality.


 Sometimes it so happens that we don’t know who we really are. What we really want from us. We move according to other’s ideas. Forgetting our real identity.


5. Becoming emotionally strong: 

This one is the best you can get of solitude. When you’ll not stop depending on others for support every then and now, you will become strong. You will learn new ways to tackle problems. 


A remark - when I say to be alone that doesn’t mean you don’t have to share your feelings or problems with the ones you love.


 It simply means that you must learn to handle yourself alone when things can be under your control. You must and should share if the matter is too big for you to handle it alone.


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HOW TO USE ISOLATION FOR YOUR DEVELOPMENT:


Isolation can be very harmful and disturbing if you didn’t use it the correct way. 
The reason most people fear it because when they are alone, they have to face their feelings. The one, they are hiding behind people. It may be sadness, guilt, failure, broken relationships. Many think being surrounded by people as their escape mode.


It’s in your hands if you want to make isolation a pleasure or prison for you. 
Running away from yourself won’t help you but facing it, feeling it will cure it slowly. 


At starting you may feel bad but once you get addicted it you will love how it is helping you grow. 
 
Also, solitude will be useless if you try to fill that time gap with any other distractions like using your phone, watching favorite movies. In order to become productive and your better version, learn to invest time with you, not your gadgets.


Use isolation as an enhancing tool for your mind and personality. Let your fears out. 
I can say from my own experiences, 
“once you get addicted to being alone, there’s no coming back, you’ll love it more than being in the crowd”.


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